A Walk with Words….

Foucault Pendulum

The most difficult thing to ever remember is the thing most obvious to you already. The more obvious, the more likely you are to forget…..deer in the headlights? With me?

For example, your heart, pretty obvious organ, ehh? Do you remember it beating? When’s the last time you remember your heart beat? How about your last breath? Recall your first breath this morning? or 2 days ago?

One foot after the other – and there before you know it.

The most difficult thing to remember is the thing most obvious….and most precious to Life.

People….good people all wanting the same things…..behave so poorly toward one another, day in, day out…..family people, friend people, co-worker people……..in moods……in pissing contests…

Married people get divorce because “they cannot work things out”……and we nod…..being polite…….never bothering to dig deeper, “cannot work things out?”…..what does that mean?

It is common to gloss over, skim over what’s customary convention, a separating couple saying “they can’t work things out” seems reasonable enough…..and not wanting to stir the pot, we move on……..Can’t work things out…….just what does that mean?

“Can’t work things out”……what couldn’t be worked out? Things?All Things? Some Things? Big Things?, Lots of Small Things?…..and who defines what “out” looks like?

Without diving too deep into muck here…….The Thing is the relationship…..the Out is happiness…..fulfillment…..riding into the sunset….

What they are saying is…..We didn’t have a relationship with happiness…..We didn’t relate with happy. Adversaries, rarely relate well with happy…….and good moods don’t count for happy……a good mood is usually only the product of an instant-reward, of something “good happening” to you…….in receipt……rather than you doing some-thing that ignites HAPPY……Buy shoes, good mood…..Have sex, good mood…..New job promotion, good mood…..Won the lottery, good mood……

Happy is REALIZING…..and SHARING……and this is exactly what MARRIAGE and RELATING is directly…..all about…..there is no-thing else…..no-thing on this planet more sensational and imperative for the very survival of the universe…..this planet…..your very dull, boring, lackluster life…..(is it lackluster?)

Can’t work things out……..Can’t relate with happy – not at least with that person……and there it is…..the mystery, riddle….and secret of it ALL…..”not at least with that person”……

When folks proclaim, “not at least with that person”…..what they really mean is, “not at least with myself at this time”…….I cannot relate well with you because of me….at this time…….

Now….now…no one is likely to claim such “embarrassment” – yet this is exactly what it is…….Any notions of GRASS is Greener on the other side…..should be forever burned at the stake…..forever and ever….nevermore, nevermore……If I could sledge-hammer a stickie-note with just one saying on it into the foreheads of every “noob” surfing the Internet today…….haha, still wouldn’t do it….there are reasons why shit’s so good damn difficult……quit being a little bitch and start enjoying the sideshow….

Most folks cannot “work things out” because they cannot have honest conversations with themselves…..and with their loved ones….they are “terminally” stuck in denial and within the hum of self-indulgence……the single reason for all the pain and suffering in this world is due to not being truthful to the self….and to others…….only hurt people hurt people……

Work on the Self….become a GROOM……a care-taker of BRIDAL-Earth…..As above, so below…..Work IT OUT YOURSELF….

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